So I believe everyone has people in their life that The Lord single handily put there. I have two of them! I already shared about one today, and that is my beautiful Kendall, now I’m overjoyed to share my very amazing and awesome best friend with you! This girl was made for me, I’m telling you! I would’ve never chosen her on my own, I say it all the time, that she would’ve been someone I hated in High School! Really though, I would’ve. But now I can’t see my life without her, and at this point I never want to! So without further delay I want you to meet this beautiful gem. This is Carlie, aka, My Person!
Like my cool friend Kendall, Carlie and I really met my freshman year all because I didn’t have a car and I wanted to bum rides off of her. Like Kendall, Carlie didn’t mind and she was always willing to help me out. I remember always seeing Carlie in our student union at Radford. She was always reading something, and I always wanted to be like that, reading just to want to read. It was so awesome. One day Carlie and I sat down and found that we both have a similar love for tattoos, and the beauty that they hold. We would sit around and talk forever, from this sitting around I would often skip my 2:30 Anthropology class, but it didn’t matter, I walked away from the class with a B, and an awesome new friend.
Last summer I went away to Ocean City on summer project, and didn’t know Carlie that well yet so it really didn’t faze me, But I found myself telling people about her, and how different and cool she was! I really loved it. I would tell them about one moment specifically. I don’t talk about it much on her, but I realllllly love the movie Titanic, like, A LOT! Well one day Carlie and I were making T-shirts for our friend Adam because he was speaking at CRU the next week and we wanted to make shirts with his face on them, so we went to Walmart to buy the shirts. While we were there the preview of Titanic in 3D came on the big screens in the background, and “My Heart Will Go On” came on and my knees buckled and I had to grab a clothes rack just to keep myself standing. Carlie continued to walk away and then noticed that I wasn’t with her anymore. When she turned around she saw me crying and gripping this clothes rack for dear life, she ran up and asked what was wrong and I explained to her that the commercial was so beautiful that I couldn’t handle it. She immediately bursted into laughter, and it was then that I knew we’d be friends! She accepted my weirdness, and allowed me to embrace it and really be myself with her!
Since coming back to Radford for my sophomore year I to do some major construction in my life, and that was very evident when it came to my friends. I had been badly burned my freshman year and was left really wondering what everything was going to look like when I returned. The Lord quickly brought Carlie back into my life and He really worked through her to show me love, and grace as I transitioned back to Radford. Like I said we’re literally perfect for each other, and this became extremely evident when I came back to Radford. Carlie welcomed me in with open arms. She would pick me up and get me away from campus when everything became too much, she would sit and just let me cry, it was always the best! It became a weekly thing that after our leadership meetings each week we’d run away and explore some new part of the town and world around us. It was always amazing just getting to ride with her, and talk, listen to awesome music, and just everything! It made it that Thursday was a day that I looked forward to every week!
Carlie became my rock this year, and constantly pointed me back to Jesus! I can only hope that I was the same for her! She constantly showers me with grace, and helps to teach me what that is and what it looks like. She’s always willing to be adventurous with me and take back roads and just drive! I really can’t think of someone I’d rather ride with or the rest of my life! This girl, man she’s just awesome!
One thing I really love about Carlie is that she’s helped me to learn to let go of control, she’s truly turned me into a go with the flow kind of person, and through it I can express my true spontaneity that I keep locked inside because I feel like people will judge me otherwise. Carlie get ourselves into crazy things all the time! Carlie was apart of this elaborate scheme to surprise me for my birthday, and man she got me so good. I just remember in the end being so shocked that she was able to keep it a secret from me. I really love that she loves me!
Once again proving we were meant for each other, Carlie and I love to go to coffee shops and just do our God times, and hangout and look like true hipsters (which is another thing she allows me to express, because she knows I really am one). Well one time we both went to Mill Mountain which is a real hot spot here in the NRV, and we both ordered at two separate times and ended up ordering the same thing, so then at the same time we both whipped out are phone and instagrammed the occurrence! I’d call that expressing our awesomeness, and of course our oneness! Ridiculous if you ask me but still awesome!
Carlie is truly amazing, and I fear the day our lives separate us for any reason, whether it be breaks from school, graduation, and the worst is ministry focus. I know that she and I will both be going into some form of Ministry, and we have both come to the realization that the chances of us being called to the same one is slim to none. It’s scary, sad, and overwhelming, but we’ve both just kind of decided that we will fight that battle when it comes our way! So until then we will live out every moment we have together, and we will honor God in our lives.
Our friendship is truly a testament to the gospel and something that I love! This summer Carlie and I will be separated, and it’s not something I think we really processed like I wish we had, but once again I know God will be glorified in both of our summers. Carlie has truly changed my life, and upon leaving this summer we gave each other gifts, and wrote notes explaining how this obviously wasn’t goodbye. Carlie made me a journal and a mixtape. The Journal was literally the most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen! I had the sickest quote ever on it, and I can’t help but smile, and cry when I read it!
“In friendship…we think we have chosen our peers. In reality a few years’ difference in the dates of our births, a few more miles between certain houses, the choice of one university instead of another…the accident of a topic being raised or not raised at a first meeting–any of these chances might have kept us apart. But, for a Christian, there are, strictly speaking no chances. A secret master of ceremonies has been at work. Christ, who said to the disciples, “Ye have not chosen me, but I have chosen you,” can truly say to every group of Christian friends, “Ye have not chosen one another but I have chosen you for one another.” The friendship is not a reward for our discriminating and good taste in finding one another out. It is the instrument by which God reveals to each of us the beauties of others.”
Carlie, I love you unconditionally, and I am praying for always as you venture to Hampton Beach! I love you and cannot wait to see you when the two of us return to Radford! You are my rock, and only continue to draw me closer to Jesus. you love me relentlessly, and I’m thankful everyday that you allow me to love you. You are awesome, you are amazing, you are everything I need in a friend,
YOU’RE MY PERSON!